Kimberly Seltzer: Dating Styles in the Digital Age | Reloscope #33

In this episode, host Aditi Kutty is joined by Kimberly Seltzer, a Confidence Therapist, Authentic Dating Strategist, and Image Expert

Navigating the complexities of modern dating can be overwhelming and uncertain for many individuals, leading to frustration and disillusionment. However, with valuable insights and guidance from a dating strategist, individuals can overcome modern dating challenges with confidence and authenticity.

Meet Kimberly Seltzer

Kimberly Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist, Authentic Dating Strategist, and Image Expert. With vast knowledge and experience as a therapist, certified style coach, dating coach, and matchmaker, she has helped people find lasting love and connection, attract success, and build valuable relationships using her unique “confidence makeover” process. 

Using an outside-in approach, Kimmy implements targeted style and emotional and social intelligence in people’s lives using her signature formula, “The Charisma Quotient.” She works on body language, first impressions, image/wardrobe, flirting, and how it impacts attraction. This Los Angeles-based expert travels the country, helping people discover confidence, charisma, and connection as a speaker at TEDx, National Matchmaking Conferences, eHarmony, Neutrogena, The Guild at Universal, UCLA, and iDate. 

Kimmy is also a regular contributor to the Huffington Post and has appeared in Cosmopolitan, Oprah Magazine, Redbook, Reader’s Digest, AskMen, Fox News Magazine, Yahoo, and the Washington Examiner, among many other publications. She has been the leading love expert on the traveling live dating show The Great Love Debate, the cable reality series The Romance, and now her new dating show, Dating IRL. 

You can also listen to her on her podcast, The Charisma Quotient, and regular Ask Kimmy segments on the Chaz and AJ Morning Show on 99.1 PLR and 95.9 The Fox.

About the episode

Kimmy emphasizes the importance of a holistic approach in attracting what you want in life and love. Many people come to her hoping to find a partner, but they end up discovering the importance of falling in love with themselves first.

She uses a formula called the “Charisma Quotient,” which encompasses three pillars: style intelligence, emotional intelligence, and social intelligence. Each aspect builds the magnetism that draws people to others:

Style Intelligence:

  • Focuses on first impressions, body language, and how you present yourself to the world.
  • Utilizes the power of dressing and styling to boost confidence and signal availability and attraction.
  • Encourages adopting a “dating costume” to make oneself attractive.

Emotional Intelligence:

  • Involves expressing yourself authentically and embracing vulnerability to foster emotional intimacy.

Social Intelligence:

  • Manages interpersonal relationships, including the art of flirting, to enhance social engagement.

The digital dating landscape is changing rapidly, and with platforms like Tinder, the dynamics of how people meet and interact have transformed significantly. Kimmy points out the challenges and opportunities within online dating, emphasizing the need for authentic connection and presenting oneself genuinely. 

The pandemic has reshaped the dating world, introducing terms like ‘slow dating’ and highlighting the importance of building emotional intimacy before physical interaction. However, the post-pandemic era has seen a swing towards hasty, less meaningful connections, underscoring the need to balance online and real-life interactions.

She acknowledges the prevalent dating anxiety, especially among younger generations. The key to overcoming this is to build one’s social muscles, both online and offline, ensuring readiness for authentic connections when they arise.

In conclusion

These insights provide a roadmap for successful dating in the digital age. Individuals can focus on holistic self-improvement, embrace the journey of dating, and maintain authenticity online to deal with modern relationships confidently. Digital dating can lead to successful relationships if both parties share their genuine personality and feelings for each other.

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