Have you ever felt that gnawing bitterness inside, only to dismiss it as a negative emotion? Well, Dr. Broennimann challenges that notion and invites you to explore resentment as a powerful tool for transformation.
Meet Allison Broennimann, Ph.D
Allison Broennimann is a licensed Clinical Psychologist based in the San Francisco Bay Area, where she operates a private practice. With over a decade of experience in the field, she specializes in Depth Psychotherapy, which focuses on understanding the underlying psychological patterns that affect her clients’ lives.
Broennimann provides solution-focused treatments for a range of mental health issues, including chronic anxiety, depression, relationship problems, grief, adjustment difficulties, traumatic stress, and phase-of-life transitions.
As a member of the American Psychological Association, Allison is committed to advancing the practice of psychology and enhancing the well-being of her clients.
She is currently preparing to publish her first book, The Secure Self: How to Escape the Pain of Your Attachment Issues, which aims to help readers understand and navigate their attachment patterns for healthier relationships and greater emotional resilience.
About the episode
Allison explains that resentment often arises from feelings of injustice or unmet needs. Rather than viewing it as a purely negative emotion, she see it as a signal—a prompt to explore deeper emotional layers. This exploration can reveal insecurities or past experiences that contribute to current feelings of resentment.
To help you work through resentment, she shares a few practical steps for you to follow:
- Acknowledge your feelings. The first step is to recognize and accept your feelings of resentment. Don’t shy away from the discomfort; instead, welcome it as an opportunity for growth.
- Do self-reflection.Take time to journal or meditate on your feelings. Ask yourself:
- What triggered this resentment?
- What needs are not being met?
- How does this feeling connect to past experiences?
- Practice mindfulness. By cultivating mindfulness, you can better attune to your emotional state and catch feelings of resentment as they arise. This awareness allows you to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively.
- Communicate effectively. Allison introduces a practical communication strategy:
- State what you see: Begin by expressing your observations. For example, “I noticed you seemed distracted during our conversation.”
- Share your feelings: Use “I” statements to express how the situation makes you feel. For instance, “I felt hurt and undervalued.”
- Articulate your needs: Clearly state what you wish for in the situation. “I wish we could have more focused time together.”
- Engage in physical activities. Engage in physical activities to release pent-up emotions. Exercise, dancing, or even going for a walk can help complete the stress cycle and alleviate feelings of resentment.
Allison highlights that self-compassion is crucial in this process. Recognize that everyone experiences resentment at times, and allow yourself grace as you navigate your feelings. It’s okay to feel hurt, and acknowledging this is a step toward healing.
In conclusion
Through this episode, you’re invited to reflect on your own experiences, recognizing that resentment can be a doorway to understanding unmet needs and promoting personal growth. The episode ultimately inspires you to embrace your feelings and use them as a stepping stone toward a more authentic and fulfilling life.
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