Everyone has lied at some point. It could be a little white lie to spare someone’s feelings or even exaggerating a little to make a story more interesting. Yet for some, it can even be a more serious deceit to avoid the consequences of their actions.
While dishonesty is seemingly harmless and viewed as somewhat human nature, research suggests that lying can have harmful effects on your mental and physical health. Yes, it’s not just a “bad thing to do”; it’s objectively bad for your health.
So, what if the stress, anxiety, and guilt you experience are the accumulated weight of being dishonest? And what if you can lead a healthier life, just by being a bit more truthful? This article examines the impact of lying on the mind-body connection and how living truthfully can lead to a happier and healthier life.
Want to understand why lying is bad and honesty is truly the best policy? Read on to find out more.
The psychological effects of lying
Dishonesty isn’t just an abstract question of what is right or wrong — it also impacts your state of mind. Lying weighs down on the mind by causing stress, anxiety, and discomfort that can trigger serious mental health challenges.
Here are summaries of what modern literature says about the psychological effects of lying:
Increased stress and anxiety
At one moment, lying may seem like an effective way to deal with a problem.
However, keeping up with the lies can be a very stressful process. Specifically, the body increases production of cortisol — a stress hormone — when you do anything that you perceive as dishonest or deceptive. Additionally, individuals who lie specifically experience higher cortisol reactivity when discussing their deception.
In extreme cases, constantly lying forces the mind to keep up with multiple false narratives, and keeping up with each one is mentally exhausting. Thus, the increase in cortisol triggers the body’s fight-or-flight responses.
This, in turn, increases the anxiety of being caught in a lie, making you nervous, paranoid, and panicky.
Guilt and emotional distress
Dishonesty takes a lot of emotional and mental load as it activates heavy cognitive processes such as working memory and inhibition of dominant impulse reactions. This is what makes lying an extremely demanding, exhausting, and challenging process.
Plus, dishonest behavior may result in guilt, shame, and emotional distress as the act itself may contradict the values and virtues you believe in.
For example, one may start to ponder questions such as “If I am capable of lying like this, what else am I capable of doing?” and “Am I being honest in other areas of my life?”. Constantly having such thoughts may contribute to low self-esteem, feelings of depression, and impostor syndrome.
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Damage to relationships and trust
All relationships require a degree of trust. While lying alone may not directly break trust, getting caught in a lie or exhibiting behaviors related to the deception increases suspicion, creating emotional distance in a relationship.
A study found that the belief that your partner is lying has a negative overall impact on everyone involved. This is how lying impacts the foundation of trust in your relationships.
This holds true for most types of relationships, whether personal or professional. In fact, a consequence of using deception in parenting is poorer quality relationships with your child, and the impact is so significant that it results in internalized behaviors such as stress responses, depressive symptoms, and anxiety in young adulthood.
Moreover, honesty empowers change, better relationship satisfaction, and overall well-being for you and others. Relationships that allow you to have honest conversations build deeper connections and respect for each other.
Read more: Communication in Relationships and Their Impact on Mental Health
The physical health consequences of dishonesty
The effects of dishonesty don’t end here. Dishonesty not only poses psychological complications, but it also impacts your body.
While not every lie results in severe physiological effects, it turns out that chronic, emotionally flooded, and high-stakes lies can lead to cardiovascular challenges, disrupted sleep, and weakened immunity.
The impact of lying on physical health is often a reflection of how often you lie, the emotional weight of lying, and your values. It’s in these cases that the stress of being dishonest can trigger physical changes with lasting consequences.
This is how it unfolds within the body.
The connection between lying and cardiovascular health
The body undergoes cardio-physiological changes when you expect to be dishonest or lie; these changes include an increased heart rate and blood pressure.
Specifically, cortisol plays a significant role in the relationship between lying and cardiovascular disease. Dishonesty triggers the release of cortisol and adrenaline, which are responsible for constricting arteries, resulting in the forceful and rapid pumping of blood throughout the body. This increases the risk of cardiovascular diseases.
Physiological changes associated with lying even mirror the symptoms of some cardiovascular diseases, such as heart attacks and strokes. These symptoms include nausea, numbness, chest pain, and feeling faint.
Impact on the immune system and overall health
The stress associated with lying can lead to physical illness.
Chronic stress (coming from lying) can lead to a weakened immune system, making you more susceptible to infections and illnesses. Physical symptoms such as headaches, body pains, digestive complications, and palpitations are a result of chronic stress, which may occur due to dishonest behavior.
These symptoms are further associated with other severe health conditions, such as autoimmune disorders.
Sleep disturbances and cognitive strain
As portrayed by most fictional characters like Lady Macbeth or Gatsby, a guilty conscience can keep you up at night.
As previously mentioned, lying leads to increased cortisol and adrenaline, both of which are responsible for keeping you alert and triggering fight-or-flight responses. Therefore, prolonged lying increases feelings of anxiety and fleeting thoughts, which can trigger guilt-induced sleeplessness.
Aside from keeping up with each lie, recalling the lie and ensuring that your current statements align with the previous ones adds more cognitive strain, which leads to brain fog, forgetfulness, and indecisiveness.
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How to recognize and overcome dishonest tendencies
While awareness is the first step to addressing the consequences of lying, it’s essential to take it a step further and learn how to actively build a habit of honesty.
This section will teach you scientific ways to build a healthier lifestyle by becoming more truthful.
Identifying patterns of deception in yourself
Identifying your own patterns of deception requires more than just checking in yourself — it needs conscious exploration of your thoughts, feelings, and reactions to situations.
But why do you need to do this? Recognizing your triggers can help you break free from potentially harmful patterns of deception. After all, self-awareness helps you understand why you may feel compelled to lie in the first place.
Upon introspection, you may identify recurring themes or circumstances in which you heavily rely on dishonest behavior.
For example, you may notice that you lie more in the following circumstances:
- Avoiding confrontation
- Getting rid of insecurity
- Avoiding judgment from others
- Avoiding the effects of a decision
- To impress people around you
- Concealing a potential benefit, or
- For the psychological excitement it causes
Other patterns you may notice in yourself include non-verbal cues, such as difficulty maintaining eye contact, nervous gestures, and changes in your voice. By bringing self-awareness to these behaviours, you can easily spot when and why you are lying.
Start trying to recognise your patterns by asking yourself these questions:
- Am I lying to avoid a consequence of an action or to avoid confrontation?
- Are the stories I narrate exaggerated to impress listeners?
- Does judgment make me feel like I should withhold the truth?
- Am I trying to gain a reward or benefit from this lie?
Answering these questions gives you insight into when and why you lie, and helps you break the habit of lying by reducing the physiological strain it causes. Specifically, noticing your triggers can foster mindfulness and honesty in situations where you rely on dishonest behaviour, which, on the whole, promotes your overall well-being.
Recognizing when someone else is lying
Outward awareness of how others lie is important for a variety of reasons.
For one, it can highlight the consequences of lying when you spot that person’s difficulties in keeping the lie. This can act as a reminder to be truthful in your everyday interactions.
Another big reason is to stay away from people who lie regularly. Constant exposure to these kinds of stimuli may desensitize you to the act, making you more likely to do it as well. Not to mention, such people just tend to be stressful overall.
Here is how to tell when someone’s lying:
- Narratives lack consistency. A big red flag is when a story changes as they share it and as it is shared with multiple people.
- Not maintaining good eye contact. Individuals who are lying may have too much or avoid eye contact entirely. This is often a big sign of discomfort, and can be a giveaway of a lie.
- Defensive behavior. If questioning leads to behavior that seems defensive and irritated, this may indicate that someone is being dishonest.
- Fidgeting. Lying leads to feelings of anxiety, which is often overtly expressed in the form of increased blinking, touching the face, knee jerking, and shifting posture.
While these are all signs that an individual may be lying, this may not always be the case. It may also be a sign of anxiety. The key is to identify several patterns rather than a single sign.
How to embrace honesty and encourage others to do the same
Living an honest life isn’t about avoiding lies; it is about embracing honesty in a way where it’s second nature to be truthful.
As highlighted earlier, it’s not just a moral issue. Honesty improves overall well-being, boosts self-esteem, reduces stress, and fosters trust. Here are some steps to incorporate honest living in your life:
- Make a consistent effort. Take the time to be honest with yourself and others, even in smaller situations.
- Build a safe environment. Encourage yourself to create and build a safe environment to express yourself and allow others to be honest as well.
- Take responsibility. It’s important to own up to previous lies that have been told, as this helps rebuild trust and brings a sense of relief.
Embracing honesty can truly set you free by providing mental and moral clarity.
In conclusion
Lying has several deep-rooted consequences that are rarely acknowledged. It affects individuals on a mental, physiological, and social level. These effects range from short-term issues, such as an increased heart rate, to long-term consequences, including cardiovascular challenges.
However, the great thing is that honesty can mitigate all the negative effects of lying. Therefore, embracing truthfulness is vital to improving well-being and reducing overall stress.
Next time you’re in a situation where you’re tempted to tell a tiny white lie, ask yourself if it’s really worth the consequences it may have on your mind and body. Taking the honest route is the best way to a healthy life, so start with yourself and then encourage others to do the same.
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