Today’s episode will tackle the stigma and misunderstandings surrounding dating apps, particularly their perceived lack of safety and authenticity compared to traditional dating. You will learn a candid exploration of how digital platforms foster connections for marginalized groups, strategies for ethical engagement, and practical advice on balancing vulnerability with self-respect in online dating.
Meet Minh Trần
Minh Trần, L.M.F.T., is a psychotherapist, educator, and Ph.D. candidate in depth psychology at Pacifica Graduate Institute. As a first-and-a-half generation queer Vietnamese-American and former “boat person” of the post-Vietnam War era, Minh brings a deeply personal and multicultural perspective to his work.
His clinical practice focuses on supporting LGBTQ+ individuals and families through a Jungian/archetypal psychology lens, and he maintains a dedicated caseload of monolingual Vietnamese speakers.
In addition to his psychotherapy work, Minh has pursued postgraduate education and training in psychedelic-assisted therapies and research at the California Institute of Integral Studies. Since 2020, he has been presenting his innovative “musical lectures” at national and international conferences, blending psychology, culture, and music to engage audiences in meaningful dialogue.
About the episode
Host Marie Stella and psychotherapist Minh Tran de-mystify online dating, examining the subject from the comfort of apps before diving into the real world. Minh dispels myths, proposing app dating is safer in terms of a “digital footprint” compared to getting out there and doing the same, which is less easily traced.
The conversation then shifts to the ways in which dating apps offer opportunities for connection, particularly for introverts and LGBTQ individuals who may have limited options in the real world. Marie raises ethical concerns such as ghosting and oversharing, while Minh offers advice on profile creation: “Update your bio like a resume—it should reflect who you are today, not three years ago.”
Minh then discusses the psychology of projection and how individuals idealize prospective dates even before meeting them. He compares it to “falling in love with a movie trailer rather than the actual movie.” He also points out being real but with boundaries, and he encourages users to practice “vulnerability with boundaries” rather than revealing too much.
Returning to the topic of ghosting, Minh frames it as a symptom of society’s broader discomfort with confrontation. He suggests that boundaries and vulnerability can soften its emotional bite. In the end, he advises that self-awareness—either through therapy or self-reflection—is the key to breaking unhealthy cycles of dating and approaching relationships with confidence, rather than emotional baggage.
In conclusion
Digital dating apps are not just swipe-driven games—they’re tools for meaningful connection when used thoughtfully. Safety isn’t sacrificed online; apps provide traceable interactions that traditional dating often lacks, especially for marginalized communities seeking visibility. Authentic profiles act as “honest trailers” of oneself, while ethical engagement demands clarity in intentions and empathy in communication.
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