Marie Stella Quek: Cultivating Growth and Resilience after Toxic Relationships | Bouncing Back #32

The podcast episode features Marie Stella Quek and host Joahanna Wickramaratne discussing cultivating growth and resilience after toxic relationships. They explore various aspects of toxic relationships and how individuals can develop resilience to overcome their challenges.

Meet Marie Stella Quek

Marie is a media and journalism graduate who hails from Singapore. She moved to Naarm/Melbourne in 2019 to pursue a bachelor’s degree in Media (Communications) and is now here to stay—along with her oversized ginger cat. Previously, Marie’s written for food, interior design and travel magazines across Singapore and Australia.

She is an avid side-quester and anti-purist, perpetually on the hunt for good food, great music, fun video games, and a reasonable work-life balance. Following a string of failed romances and dating ventures, Marie now spends her nights alone, documenting her thoughts and emotions through poems, essays, and photographs.

About the episode

The podcast episode focuses on toxic relationships and acknowledges that they can exist in romantic partnerships and friendships. Marie and Joahanna discuss the difficulties of ending friendships, as people are often unprepared for this aspect. They delve into the signs of toxic relationships, highlighting patterns that persist despite attempts to address them and situations where one party consistently feels negatively impacted.

They discuss practical pieces of advice for individuals who have experienced toxic relationships. Here are some of the key points:

Focus on personal growth and mental well-being: After a toxic relationship, it is crucial to prioritize self-care and invest time and energy in activities that promote personal growth and mental well-being. This can include pursuing hobbies, engaging in journaling for self-reflection, and spending quality time alone to reconnect with oneself.
Recognize relationship patterns: It’s important to be aware of recurring behaviors or relationship patterns, as they could indicate toxicity. By recognizing these patterns, individuals can make informed decisions and take steps to break unhealthy cycles.
Overcome the fear of being alone: Building self-confidence and independence is essential to overcoming this fear and creating a fulfilling life outside of a toxic relationship.
Evaluate potential reunions: If you are considering reconnecting with a past partner, it is crucial to evaluate whether both individuals have genuinely changed and resolved the issues that led to the toxicity.
Seek support from friends and communities: Surrounding oneself with supportive friends and communities can provide valuable advice, companionship, and understanding during healing.
Take time before serious dating: It’s important to give oneself time and space to heal before entering into another serious relationship. Rushing into dating can lead to seeking validation or repeating patterns.
Maintain perspective and focus on growth: Maintaining a positive perspective and focusing on growing wiser from experiences rather than dwelling on negativity or self-blame is important.
Consider counseling or therapy: If the toxic relationship is long-term or abusive, seeking professional support through counseling or therapy can be instrumental in the healing process. A trained therapist can provide guidance, tools, and a safe space to process emotions and promote healthy healing.

In conclusion

This episode emphasizes the importance of personal growth, resilience, self-awareness, and compassion in navigating through difficult times. It also encourages embracing the journey of self-discovery and understanding while acknowledging the ongoing nature of healing and growth. This episode motivates listeners to embrace their own strength and vulnerability and to approach life with openness and empathy.

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