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Hui Wen Tong: The Path from Conflict to Violence in Intimate Relationships | Reloscope #59

Creating a safe, non-judgmental therapeutic space for individuals experiencing relationship violence, whether as victims or perpetrators, is crucial. Get ready to explore the triggers and stressors that can increase the risk of violence in intimate relationships or when it’s time to exit a relationship. Don’t miss out on this thought-provoking discussion on the path from words to wounds.

Meet Hui Wen Tong

Hui Wen is a compassionate and collaborative therapist who is dedicated to empowering clients to fulfill their needs and embrace their true selves. Utilizing her expertise in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Attachment Theory, and other client-centered approaches, she tailors her methods to fit the distinct personalities and requirements of each individual. 

Hui Wen believes that many clients already possess the answers they seek, and what they truly need is a supportive environment and a compassionate listener — a role she takes great pride in fulfilling.

About the episode

In this episode of Reloscope, Hui Wen Tong explains that  people often stay in violent relationships due to codependency, where one partner enables and exacerbates the violence. This dynamic creates a harmful feedback loop where the aggressor’s behavior is reinforced by the victim’s tolerance, making it challenging for individuals to break free.

Healthy conflict resolution differs significantly from manipulation or passive aggressiveness, which can lead to future violence. Hui Wen Tong emphasizes that effective conflict resolution involves emotional regulation and self-awareness, while manipulation includes threats and power imbalances. 

Early signs of potential violence can escalate if unchecked. Hui Wen Tong highlights the need for early intervention through open communication and counseling. Addressing these early behaviors is crucial to preventing more severe violence.

Hui Wen Tong stresses the importance of extending unconditional positive regard in therapy to foster understanding and support. Effective therapy also involves helping individuals address underlying issues and ensuring they have personal interests and support systems outside the relationship.

In conclusion

This episode emphasizes the importance of creating a safe, non-judgmental therapeutic space for individuals affected by violence, allowing them to discuss their experiences openly. By differentiating healthy conflict resolution from manipulation, recognizing early signs of violence, and fostering a safe therapeutic environment, individuals can better navigate and potentially transform these challenging dynamics.

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