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How Helping Others Helps You

There’s an old saying: “No one has ever become poor by giving.” At first, this might sound untrue because giving can feel like losing something. But that’s not the case, because you tend to receive far more than you give away, if not in kind.

The same principle applies when you help others. Many overlook that the act of helping can transform the helpers. In those moments, when you set aside your own ego, desires, or resources, you’re essentially becoming selfless. Thus, when you lend your hand to others, you build resilience and grow your self-identity.

You wonder how? This article will show you more, along with tips to cultivate the most benefits from helping.

Start the following sections to know how helping others helps you, and while at it, try to reflect on how your lives might be enriched through helping.

The benefits of helping others

Helping others comes in various forms, like giving a stranger the right directions or caring for your loved one.

All of these require both physical and mental effort. You must have the will to do the act of helping, know the kind of support you can offer, and be patient with those you’re helping. 

This is why the act of helping strengthens your compassion and adaptability.

Being compassionate means having the desire to help. Each time you do so, you actively put your compassion into practice. Moreover, you may gain new knowledge or practice that enables you to adjust to new situations in the process of helping others.

All of it might seem like a hassle that creates stress, but research shows otherwise. According to the European Journal of Social Psychology, individuals who help others are more likely to be happy and satisfied with their lives.

This effect is even enhanced when you don’t expect something in return, since the act of helping itself is already rewarding enough for you.

How supporting others fosters personal growth

Helping others is more than just a kind act; it also shapes you in meaningful ways. The patience, compassion, and adaptability you build strengthen who you are as a person. These are some of the benefits of helping others, which can evolve into a pathway for personal growth. 

Take a look at the next section to see how this is possible.

Discovering untapped strengths

Helping others isn’t always easy, and it’s often in those tougher moments that you discover strengths you didn’t know you had. When things don’t go as planned, you’re pushed to step up in new ways.

You might find yourself mediating when teammates disagree, realizing you have a gift for bringing people together. Or you might keep showing up for a community project even when turnout is low, uncovering just how much perseverance you carry.

Research shows that proactive helping (taking the initiative rather than waiting to be asked) has powerful effects on self-development and growth over time. By choosing to help, you’re not only improving a situation but shaping the kind of person you’re becoming.

These moments become small awakenings, revealing what you’re capable of under pressure and shaping qualities that last. Research also finds that helping others across different areas of life — whether family, strangers, or community members — strengthens your sense of self-worth and self-confidence.

This is how helping others helps uncover hidden strengths and deepens your understanding of yourself.

Deepening self-awareness

Helping is a form of prosocial behavior, a voluntary action that benefits the well-being of others. By enacting help, you can learn more about yourself.

You can do this in the moment, but primarily through self-reflection on past experiences of helping others.

For instance, if you take time to examine your own thoughts and feelings about past helping behavior, you might realize that what drives you is a genuine desire to make a positive difference in other people’s lives.

In fact, research published in the International Journal of Psychology found that, among 722 university students from diverse cultural backgrounds, helping behavior was positively associated with self-transcendence values — the tendency to care for others’ welfare beyond one’s own interests.

In this way, your response to others’ needs acts as a mirror, reflecting your motivations, values, and areas for growth.

Fostering a sense of belonging

Collective action, such as volunteering, can foster both personal growth and a sense of belonging. These environments give you space to use what you already know while contributing to something bigger than yourself. At the same time, you’ll often encounter new skills to learn. 

For instance, if you’re good at organizing, you might take the lead in planning an event or coordinating tasks for a charity drive. Introducing a guest speaker at an event helps you practice public speaking.

Just as importantly, collective spaces connect you with people you might not otherwise meet. Sharing goals and working side by side creates friendships and networks, making you feel part of a community rather than standing on your own.

Practical ways to help others

The benefits of helping others go beyond the immediate impact; they uncover hidden strengths, sharpen self-understanding, and build lasting connections. To make these benefits a real part of everyday life, it helps to move from ideas to action.

Take a look at the practices below to see how.

Help others in your community

Helping others in your community doesn’t always require grand gestures. Even small, intentional actions can bring people together and spark meaningful change. Here are some simple, practical ideas on how to help others in your community:

  • Give your time. Join local projects, shelters, or events where your presence and effort can really make a difference. Start by focusing on issues you care about and exploring community websites or social media for volunteer openings near you.
  • Share your skills. Offer guidance or mentorship to someone who could learn from your experience. Reach out to community centers or local groups to see who might benefit from your expertise.
  • Support local efforts. Whether by donating, showing up, or spreading the word, small acts keep community causes alive. Follow local charities or campaigns online to see how you can help.

Read more: How Community Engagement Activities Enhance Social Bonds

Do something small every day

Kindness doesn’t need to be complicated. Often, the simplest gestures leave the biggest mark. If you’ve ever wondered how you can help someone in your daily life, try these small but meaningful actions:

  • Be fully present. When someone needs to talk, put distractions aside and really listen. Focus on what they’re saying without rushing to give advice. Sometimes, your presence is enough.
  • Check in often. Send a short text, make a quick call, or ask how someone’s day is going. Creating a habit of checking in reminds people they’re not alone and that someone cares.
  • Offer small help. Help in practical ways like picking up groceries, sharing a meal, or lending a hand with something small. Ask what they need most; even a simple gesture can ease their day.

Balancing giving and self-care

Helping others is important, but so is protecting your own energy. When you care for yourself, the support you give becomes more genuine and lasting. 

When you actually give yourself time to rest and recharge, the way you show up for others shifts. You’re less drained, more present, and able to stick with what you’ve committed to. This makes the support you give feel more genuine and sustainable.

Keep these in mind:

  • Share at your own pace. Offer help that feels manageable. Check in with yourself first. If you’re tired or busy, it’s okay to wait until you have more space to give.
  • Step back when needed. Notice signs of fatigue or stress and permit yourself to pause. Saying no doesn’t mean you don’t care; it helps you stay healthy enough to keep caring in the long run.
  • Take time to rest. Treat rest as part of your giving routine. Even short breaks help you recharge and prevent emotional exhaustion, so you can be present when it matters most.
  • Choose with care. Help where it feels right and realistic for you. Focus on the people and causes that truly matter, and your support will feel more authentic and fulfilling.

Read more: Healthy Habits for a Balanced Life: How to Prioritize Self-Care and Wellness

In conclusion

At first, helping might feel like giving something away — your time, your comfort, or your energy.

But it’s never just a one-way exchange. Every act of kindness shapes you, drawing out hidden strengths that surface under pressure, clarifying what matters to you, and weaving connections that keep you grounded in others.

This is how helping others helps you.

So next time an opportunity comes, keep it simple. Lend a hand, listen with care, or share something you know. These small moments not only lift someone else but also bring strength and meaning into your own life.

In giving, you may realize you’ve gained more than you ever thought.

If you want to see more resources on caring, check out the Personal Science Labs. The lab uses the research of the Institute for Life Management Science to produce courses, certifications, podcasts, videos, and other tools. Visit the Personal Science Labs today.

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Ardyta Kusumaningsih

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