Get ready to learn about the importance of solid parent-teacher relationships in supporting a child’s academic journey. Explore how to build strong, effective partnerships between parents and teachers with expert guest Dr. Elaine Shpungin. Tune in to learn empowering methods to play an active role in children’s education.
Dr. Elaine Shpungin, originally from the former USSR, moved to the U.S. in her childhood and grew up in Brooklyn. She earned a Ph.D. in Clinical-Community Psychology from Michigan State University. She went on to direct the Psychological Services Center at the University of Illinois for 12 years and launched her own consulting practice in 2016.
With over 25 years of experience, Dr. Elaine integrates psychology, communication, conflict resolution, restorative justice, and leadership into her work through writing, speaking, and coaching. She has received recognition, such as the University of Illinois Academic Professional Award, and even hiked out of the Grand Canyon with a 35-pound pack for her 50th birthday. Her insights are also shaped by 25 years of marriage and co-parenting — experiences that have informed her deep interest in conflict and communication.
In this episode of Raising Parents, Dr. Elaine Shpungin describes parenting as a series of shifting roles, including cheerleading, supporting, advocating, guiding, and coaching, all while knowing when to let go. These roles are aspirational and involve a tension between guiding and allowing independence. She emphasizes that children are humans with less life experience, so maintaining dignity in interactions is crucial, though not always achievable.
Parenting is paradoxical, filled with intense emotions such as fear, joy, terror, pride, and embarrassment. At the same time, parents need to provide steadiness for their children, who are also experiencing emotional ups and downs. Experimenting with humor, mutual support, and self-compassion can help parents stay centered and acknowledge they are doing their best without a perfect manual for their specific child.
Dr. Elaine advises parents transitioning into their role to remember their own humanity. While children will draw immense love and care, parents and co-parents should nurture their relationships. Self-care is essential, not just to be a better parent, but because individuals deserve time, love, passion projects, and support as people with their own light to shine.
In conclusion, Dr. Elaine suggests that effective parenting involves navigating complex roles, managing intense emotions, maintaining personal well-being, fostering open communication, and building trust with both children and educators. However, it also necessitates remembering to prioritize self-care and personal relationships.
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